Women's Sexual Desires

I chose to do my blog on the writing assignment for page 311 #3. I wanted to do some research and see what I could find on sex and chemistry, and I found a lot of articles. One article that caught my eye was called Women’s Sexual Desire: A Feminists Critique. I wanted to see how other women perceive women’s sexual desires and what this article was all about.

In this article they talk about how male models are used as the “standard” for sexual desire. Women’s sexuality is compared to men’s and I think that is unfair. As most of us women know, sexually, men act differently then women. Most women want love and compassion, while most men want sex and someone to take home for a one-night stand. Now, I’m not saying ALL men and women are like this. There are some women who want one-night stands, and there are some men who want a companion that they can share secrets and feelings with. The one thing that the article does agree on is that sexual desires are very spontaneous, whether it is a man or woman.

Another thing the article talks about is what they called the “linear model of sexual desire”. This model shows phases of sexual desire and that there is only one correct way to experience sexual response. But, the author argues that this model is different for women. Women don’t always experience sexual desire as the precursor to sexual arousal, but men commonly do. They were also able to prove this in focus groups containing both men and women.

The thing about sexual desires is that is it confusing!!!!! There is no one-way to experience sexual desires and they differ, not only from men and women, but from woman to woman. Sexual desires are both part of the brain, heart, and chemistry. It involves many different “parts” working together to form a sexual desire. I think sexual desire is a very confusing topic, especially when it gets down to the chemistry level. I don’t know how it works, and I don’t really care to know how it works, just as long as it does!

Wood, Jill M., Patricia B. Koch, and Phyllis K. Masfield. "Women's Sexual Desire: A Feminist Critique." The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. 22 Nov. 2005. Web. 05 Oct. 2010. <http://www.sexscience.org/publications/index.php?category_id=439&subcategory_id=1846>.