No Need For Monogamous, Heterosexual Relationships
In a society that has an extremely high divorce rate, heterosexual, monogamous marriages are hard to come by. There are two factors that affect divorce. Both society and evolution are affecting the length, reasons, intensity, and cause of our relationships. If evolution plays such a large part can we change the outcome? We, as humans, can’t solely decide the fate of our own relationships and need to rely on evolution to point us in the right direction. Even evolutionary psychologists believe we can’t decide our fate.
According to Wright, “Humans are designed to fall in love… they aren’t designed to stay there.” (Wright 280) However, this is not exactly true. Just look at people around you. Have you never seen that adorable older couple, still in love with each other? Sure they may argue, bicker, fight, and disagree but that doesn’t mean they don’t love each other anymore. Many couples are able to work through their disagreements. According to Wright, “The human mind was designed for the purpose of transmitting genes to the next generation; feelings of lust, no less that the sex organs, are here because they aided reproduction directly.” (Wright 280) The whole reason we feel lust is in order to reproduce. In evolutionary psychology, it doesn’t matter if you’re in a monogamous relationship, as long as you are spreading your genes (HelloLife).
In America divorce rates are outrageous. Few couples get married and stay together their entire lives. Here are a few statistics and graphs to help spread light on this topic. In 2000 there were 58 million couples who were married, but divorced. People between 25 and 39 make up over sixty percent of all divorces. In 1998 the divorce rate to marriages was exactly 50% (see image 2) (Project America, Social Issues). The 1980’s had the highest divorce rates of any decade (see image 1) (Vanmann). Surprisingly, America is not the country with the highest divorce rates. America falls behind the Soviet Union in places such as Russia (see image 3). Lithuania, Czech Republic, Estonia, Latvia, Slovakia, Slovenia, and Poland are also very high on the list of divorce rates (Project America, International). This evidence supports evolutionary psychology in the fact that there is no need for monogamous, heterosexual relationships. Even with divorce rates being as high as they are, we are still an extremely overpopulated country.
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(Project America, Social Issues)
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(Project America, International)
When it comes to evolutionary psychology, there is no need for monogamous relationships. The whole point of being human and having sex organs is so that we can reproduce and make sure our species doesn’t go extinct (HelloLife). So in this sense, heterosexual, monogamous marriage doesn’t matter as long as you are having children. Today, we are a species who no longer depends on evolution to make sure we have children. Many couples are together long enough to have children and, in some cases, raise them. After children have left the “nest”, or are old enough to thrive on their own, many couples end up separating. They no longer have a need to be together, their job is finished. This isn’t always the case, but it is a very popular trend occurring within couples.
As the human species we no longer need to worry about spreading our genes. Now we are worried about finding our soul mates. In the sense of evolutionary psychology, no, we do not need monogamous, heterosexual relationships. We only need to find mates to reproduce with in order to make sure we spread our genes (HelloLife). In the sense of humans today, we don’t need monogamous relationships. Instead, we need to fulfill our wants and needs, whether it is through monogamous relationships or just quick courtships. We aren’t as worried about spreading genes but about making ourselves happy.
Works Cited
"International: Health Care: Marriage and Divorce Rate." Project America. Project America, 2008. Web. 28 Nov. 2010. <http://www.project.org/info.php?recordID=349>.
"Social Issues: Marriage and Divorce." Project America. Project America, 2008. Web. 28 Nov. 2010. <http://www.project.org/info.php?recordID=139>.
"The Male Biological Need for Sex Explore Your Health." HelloLife™ - Matching Your Commitment to a Healthy Lifestyle. 18 Jan. 2008. Web. 28 Nov. 2010. <http://www.hellolife.net/explore/shrinkage-dysfunction/the-male-biological-need-for-sex/>.
Vannman, Reeve. "Divoce Rates." Sociology 441: Stratification. University of Maryland, 8 Oct. 1999. Web. 28 Nov. 2010. <http://www.bsos.umd.edu/socy/vanneman/socy441/trends/divorce.html>.
Wright, Robert. "Our Cheating Hearts." Academic Communities/ Disciplinary Conventions. Ed. Bonnie Beedles and Michael Petracca. Upper Saddle River: Prentice Hall, 2001. 278-291.



